In Dina McGreevey's newly released book, Silent Partner, and in her recent interview on the Oprah Winfrey Show, she flatly denies that she knew her husband was gay. Despite Jim McGreevey's claims to the contrary, an infidelity expert is inclined to believe Dina McGreevey is being truthful when she says she had no knowledge of her husband's same-sex affairs.
The Last to Know
"It's highly unlikely that Dina McGreevey knew her husband was gay." says infidelity expert Ruth Houston, founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and author of Is He Cheating on you - 829 Telltale Signs. "Most gay married men are very skilled when it comes to concealing their sexual orientation. Their wives and girlfriends are usually the last to know. Like most unsuspecting women who are in marriages or relationships with gay men, Dina McGreevey probably had no inkling that she was a victim of same-sex infidelity."
Gay Husbands Not Uncommon
Dina McGreevey's situation is by no means unique. Take a look at some of the facts:
* According to the Centers for Disease Control, more than 3 million women are, or have been wives or girlfriends of men who secretly have sex with other men. The Straight Spouse Network cites similar statistics.
* According to the Family Pride Coalition, 20 % of America's gay men in are in heterosexual marriages.
* At least 50% of the gay men in America have fathered children.
Most Same-Sex Infidelty Goes Undetected
Houston, a New York-based infidelity expert who is also author of a 2-part tip sheet on how wives can spot the signs of same-sex infidelity says, "Most infidelity goes undetected - and that includes same-sex infidelity. Studies show that 2/3 of the women whose husbands are cheating in them have no idea these men are having an extramarital affair. So not only are these women unaware that they're married to gay or bisexual men, they're also oblivious to the fact that their husbands are even having an affair. Some of these unsuspecting wives never find out."
Why Women Miss the Telltale Signs
Houston continues, "Unfortunately, when women like Dina McGreevey finally learn the truth about their husbands, they often blame themselves for not having seen the signs. Yet they have no clue as to what kinds of signs they should have seen. However, unless a woman has reason to suspect that her husband might be gay, it's unlikely that she'd pick up any of the signs. Most of them are quite subtle and easy to overlook. Dina McGreevey admits that there were no obvious signs of her husband's secret life."
"Even if a woman begins to suspect that her husband may be gay, she usually has no idea of how to go about confirming or disproving what she suspects. Knowing what -- and what not --to look for is the key."
Myths About Identifying Gay Married Men
According to Houston, who has spent the past 14 years researching and writing about infidelity, there are two common myths about identifying gay or bisexual married men.
Myth Number 1 - A gay husband can be identified by his outward appearance or his mannerisms - the way he walks, talks, dresses, or acts.
Myth Number 2 - It's impossible for a woman to tell if her husband or boyfriend is gay.
As a result of this misinformation, most women have no idea how to tell if their husband or boyfriend s sexually involved with other men.
Finding the Signs of Same Sex Infidelity
Two years ago, Houston, who also does personal infidelity consultations by phone, began receiving an increasing number of requests from her readers and website visitors for information about same sex infidelity.
Says Houston, "Since very little has been written about the signs of same-sex infidelity and how to spot them, I compiled a 2-part tip sheet on this topic. It gives women a discreet, accurate 3-step procedure for finding out if their husbands or boyfriends are bisexual or gay. Requests for the Same Sex Infidelity tip sheet quadrupled after Brokeback Mountain made its debut."
from Press Release
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