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It used to be somewhat of a joke or even commonplace in the media to hear about women faking orgasms. Its been the topic of conversation in countless romantic comedies, talk shows and sitcoms such as Sex and the City. However a new poll shows that men are just as guilty when it comes to faking it.
According to a new Lavalife poll faking orgasms are not just a woman's prerogative, but startling number of men polled say they too have done the deed. According to results form the poll 48 percent of the 9,100 men polled through the online dating site Lavalife.com say they have faked an orgasm.
"When it comes to faking orgasms, people assume that it's primarily done by women," says Ambrose Diaz, a contributing editor to Lavalife Magazine, who recently researched the topic and wrote a story on the practice ... or lack thereof. "The poll we conducted on Lavalife.com shows us that it's definitely not just women who are faking it, but a large number of men as well."
By reading this one of the questions running through your mind is how do men get away with it?
"Wearing a condom makes it easy," says Diaz. "According to my research, the men who have faked an orgasm without a condom just told their partners they didn't ejaculate very much."
According to Diaz, many of the reasons men fake orgasms are similar to those of women: they are tired, they just want to be done, or they just aren't into sex that particular night. Some thought they were going to lose their erection or felt they were lacking an emotional connection.
However the numbers from the poll show that women fake it in bed more than men. Roughly 82 percent of the 6,350 women who were surveyed say they have faked an orgasm.
from All Headline News
Women who have sex with other women or do more than just have straightforward intercourse are more likely to have orgasms, an Australian study has definitively proved.
The latest findings from the nation's largest sexuality survey unveiled on Monday shed new light on the relationship between what lovers do in the sack and whether they experience orgasm.
The sex snapshot, based on interviews with more than 19,000 people, shows that standard intercourse is by far the most common sexual practice.
About 95 per cent of those interviewed engaged in the act in their last sexual encounter, while 75 per cent also had some kind of "manual stimulation".
One quarter had received oral sex and only one per cent had anal sex.
The study, published in the latest Journal of Sex Research, shows that 31.1 per cent of women having heterosexual sex in their last encounter did not have an orgasm, compared to 24 per cent of those involved in lesbian sex.
Only 5.2 per cent of men did not orgasm.
The researchers, from Melbourne's La Trobe University and the Universities of Sydney and NSW, said they were surprised at the "extreme discrepancies" between men and women.
One explanation, says co-author Chris Rissel, is the heavy concentration on intercourse - more "effective" for men - as the "central, almost compulsory sexual practice" for heterosexuals.
On top of this, men want sex more than women so in long-term relationships women commonly give away "freebies", he said.
The research, part of the Australian Study of Health and Relationships, clearly showed that the more sexual practices a women engages in the more likelihood she has of orgasm.
For example, less than half of women who had standard intercourse on its own had an orgasm.
But those who added two variations to the repertoire had up to 90 per cent "success".
Prof Rissel said these findings challenge old fashioned attitudes to women's sexuality that blame the individual if she is unable to have an orgasm.
"Much of the research on female difficulties with orgasm or with heterosexual sex in general has focused more on indirect causes, such as upbringing, attitudes, religion, marital adjustment, anxiety, previous traumatic experience," rather than form of stimulation received, the authors wrote.
They said recent attempts had been made to "medicalise" women's sexual difficulties to create a market for female Viagra.
But their findings show that "the sexual stimulation delivered to women in the typical, rigidly-scripted heterosexual interaction has more to do with whether they reach orgasm (and we suspect, enjoy sex) than with more obscure and distant causes".
from The Sydney Morning Herald
