There comes a time when everyone who is sexually active must take a step back and a deep breath, and ask themselves, “Is there enough lube in the world for this to work?”Don’t fret: there is so much lube out there, just try to get the thick kind. You don’t want it to dry up.
Some people adore anal sex and anal play, and then there are those who get nauseated at the thought of it. If you are from the latter group, you may want to stop reading here.
As a sexual researcher (and generally horny person) I’ve attempted anal sex. This was many years ago, and my boyfriend at the time and I had no idea what we were doing!
It was awkward and painful. We didn’t use lube, and we didn’t ever try again.
Six years later, as I was 18 when I attempted sodomy (beat you to it, hate-mail senders), I am considering giving it another shot. I would definitely have to be in a damn serious relationship, because someone I don’t love is not sticking anything into a hole I can’t see!
Also, the person who this is attempted with must be gentle, patient and attentive.
I am surprised at the number of straight men who are trying to get their penis in a girl’s back door! This is an interesting trend in the world of sex.
Anal sex is in fashion, in case you were wondering. There are guides to anal sex, specific lubes just for anal sex, and tons of straight porn with anal sex (Not to mention gay porn and even all-girl porn.).
You can’t go anywhere these days without running into something that makes you think of anal sex. So, instead of a debating about whether it’s “right” or not, I will leave it up to you, my readers, to decide what is good for you. Instead of positives and negatives, I will give some just-in-case advice.
For starters, as with every other kind of sex, use a condom. This is even more important with someone knocking at your back door than it is with vaginal sex. The obvious diseases (HIV or AIDS) aside, there are many other reasons.
How about bacterial infection in your love tunnel if your man switches over without washing and peeing first? With a condom, you can just change it very quickly, without that pain in the ass (pun intended) waiting.
The little bacteria can work their way up your urethra, and you can get an infection. Also, how embarrassing would it be to explain to your doctor that you swear you and your girlfriend weren’t even having vaginal sex when she got pregnant?
It’s rare, but you can get pregnant from the little spermies traveling out and around and back in. That baby would probably grow up to be one shitty person (Collective groan, I know).
After the condom is on, and you have the lube (condom-friendly, the thicker the better, no numbing agents), you are ready to rock and roll! OK, maybe it will have to start off as soft rock, or adult contemporary, maybe a little jazz.
Start slow and gentle and use foreplay — lots of it. A turned-on asshole is a relaxed asshole. It is the same with the anus. Try some massage, maybe a little tongue-in-cheek action.
When you are both ready, go at it slowly. The more nervous you are, the more difficult it will be.
Think about it, those are some strong muscles you have back there. Don’t fight against them; work with them. If it hurts, stop. If there are tears, and not happy ones, stop. If there is blood, stop.
OK, now I’m scaring you, but I just want safety first. Boys, always give a little reach around to the receiver, their genitals need some loving, too.
Remember that this is your decision and that no one should pressure you into doing anything you don’t want to. Also, I am not to be held responsible if you love it and don’t want to do anything else, nor if you hate it and won’t ever do it again.
Best of luck, and remember, if you can’t trust the person you’re sleeping with, what the hell are you sleeping with them for?
from The University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee Post by Devon M. Wiesend
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