Should Gays Be Allowed To Adopt - No

I have to admit it was very hard for me to write this. I never really saw any reason why someone's sexual preference should have anything to do with providing a home for a child who needs one.
However, once I started to do a little research on the topic I started to see how gay adoption might not actually be in the best interest of the child.
Kids today face so many problems growing up and what they seem to need most is stability. Since gay marriage is not yet legal, how stable can a family be that has no binding contract to keep it together? What happens if the couple splits up and one partner denies responsibility? There is no legal document to say that person has to provide support for the child and in the end, it just leaves a lot of room for the child to get hurt. Unmarried and homosexual couples just cannot provide the same amount of stability that a married heterosexual couple can.
Children need role models and every child deserves the right to have both a mother and a father. A heterosexual couple can allow the child to learn distinctive values from each parent and they can provide a male or female perspective on things, giving the child a well-rounded point of view.
According to an article published in the National Catholic Register, Dean Byrd, a psychologist and clinical professor of medicine at the University of Utah school of medicine, says there is evidence that parenting by a same-sex couple does indeed make a difference.
"We know for sure that the children are different, the girls behave more like boys and the boys more like girls," said Byrd, a member of the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality.
Byrd's research showed that fathers and mothers contribute to parenting in complementary rather than interchangeable ways.
"Women provide more security and men more freedom, while at the same time women are more flexible and men more consistent," Byrd said. "The children also learn how to get along with the other gender from their heterosexual parents."
This type of upbringing is vital and crucial for the emotional growth of adopted children. They already have the extra baggage on them of being abandoned by their biological parents.
Parents are essentially our teachers and just as they can teach their children right from wrong, they can teach behaviors. We all know that most kids learn by example and by what they see in their household. No matter how much a parent wants to say "Do as I say, don't do as I do," in the case of raising children, more often than not the kids follow what they see. To a young child growing up, it may be very confusing to have same-sex parents.
Byrd's study found that girls raised by lesbian couples experiment with sex earlier than those raised by heterosexual parents and both boys and girls are more likely to engage in homosexual relations. Now this may not happen to every child raised in by gay parents, I mean there are exceptions, but it does increase the possibility.
There also have been cases where adopted children become victims at the hands of their gay parents. According to an article published in the National Catholic Register, Charles Mitchell and his younger brother were molested by the friends of their "Dad" and "Uncle," leaving them with lasting scars. "Homosexuality destroyed a normal way of life for us," Mitchell said. "To this day it is difficult for me to trust men."
We really need to look at what kind of environment we are putting these children into when they are adopted by gay parents. It can affect them in so many ways and most of them seem to be negative.
from Spartan Daily / Jill Rae Seib